**This post features gifted items in partnership with Lovehoney**
Sexy is quite a broad sweeping term isn’t it? And one man’s sexy can indeed be another man’s trash (or both wink wink.) When Lovehoney got in touch with me to write this post, I did, for second do a big *gulp* – long gone are the days on my blog and insta of posing in sexy underwear.
When Lovehoney got in touch to ask me to collaborate, I began to think about sex and sexuality. For me personally, as I’ve aged and indeed my child has, I’ve toned down a little bit of my content for fear of embarrassing my very delicate teenager; BUT one thing we do openly discuss in our house, is sex and sexuality with no judgement or embarrassment. So that got me to thinking, in a Carrie Bradshaw kind of way… What does ‘sexy’ mean to me… and indeed you?
Sexy, sexual, sensual…
They’re definitely not the same thing are they? What might satisfy one need or lust, might not do the trick for the other.
I think for me, the meaning of sexy has definitely evolved over the years. It’s very much about subtlety now. I very rarely dress ‘sexy’ nowadays, it’s more of a delicate dance than overt sexuality. It’s hints of what’s underneath, even just a flash of shoulder or wearing underwear as outerwear. That’s why I chose these Lovehoney pieces as they work beautifully with something quite mundane and every day to elevate my look and add a little hint of sexiness to my outfit.
In the bedroom
Of course, what goes on behind locked doors can be an altogether different story. Sexiness is a very subjective experience that varies from person to person. People have unique preferences and desires when it comes to what they find arousing. Some people may find the use of sex toys and bondage gear such as spanking paddles , spreader bars and handcuffs to be a stimulating and exciting addition to their sexual experiences.
The power dynamics, sensory play, and exploration of boundaries that come with bondage can be immensely sexy. On the other hand, for some individuals, the allure of sexiness lies more in the realm of lingerie and underwear. The anticipation, sensuality, and aesthetic appeal of enticing designs can evoke intense desire and pleasure. Ultimately, what one finds sexy is deeply personal and influenced by individual preferences, experiences, and fantasies.
You do you…
I think the crux of the matter is, sex should never be shameful. It should always be what you want and how you want it. And there is no wrong way. Enjoy sex in a way that means something to you (always safely though, I am a mother and responsible adult after all.)