Well well well, those of you who follow me on my beckybarnesblog instagram will know that yesterday was Sexual Happiness Day and to celebrate that, myself and the good folk at Lovehoney have launched a little giveaway. Head to instagram for the details, it’s running all week!
It kind of got me thinking about the concept of sexual happiness. A few years ago it meant a cup of tea and a round of toast to be honest. I had no interest in sex, I thought my time had come and gone.
Thing is, I was unhappy in my marriage, I was truly and utterly exhausted from full time uni, part time work and full time mum duties. My body had undergone a lot of changes, I’d lost weight, had operations and my mental health was terribly bad.
|I am wearing: Lovehoney Adore Me in 3X/4X|
And the latter, for me, is a huge contributing factor to my libido. Which let’s face it is pretty understandable; when your brain isn’t functioning as it should and you can barely piece the day together, the amount of mental energy needed to invest in sex is non-existent.
When I ended my marriage I found myself in a pretty good mental state (well actually I was in a false state of well-being if I’m honest, but it did the job). I was able to start exploring my sexuality again and at first it was scary, I’d slept with the same guy for 10 years. But sure enough I began to return to the fun loving, sexually happy woman I used to be, and eventually I met my partner whose care and love has made me realise that sex is a wonderful and a valid part of a relationship for me. And that’s the key here… for ME. Everyone is different. Sexual happiness might be solo sex, it might be a quick flick of the bean to relax before bed time, it might be multiple partners, open relationships or it might be abstinence. Everyone’s happy sex place is different.
If you feel like you’d like to explore yourself sexually or maybe you and a partner would like to, Lovehoney is your go-to destination for toys, lubes and lingerie. They have a vast array of sexy time stuff which all comes packaged discreetly to your door. Hoorah!
Oh and a quick P.S. Fat people do have sex, no we don’t crush people, no our parts aren’t any different to slim people’s and no we’re not grateful for the attention and therefore a ‘better shag’.
**The lingerie in this post was sent to me for the purposes of review. Words such as ‘flick of your bean before bed’, are all mine. No really**