There comes a time in any long-term relationship where both partners will need to get creative to keep things spicy. Some people fear that if the excitement fades, it spells doom. That’s simply not true! It’s only natural for a relationship to mature, stabilize, and cool-off over time. That doesn’t mean you need to abandon your partner for someone new or relegate yourself to a life of predictability and monotony.
There are lots of ways to keep the fire lit in a long-term relationship. It’s important to remember that although you and your partner may seem to know each other very well, it’s impossible to completely know someone else. Don’t assume that the mystery is gone. Your partner maintains hidden parts of their mind and heart, and it’s your mission to uncover them together. Become interested in learning more about your partner and also more about yourself. Maintaining a sense of adventure, an interest in one another, and a desire to grow will ensure that excitement isn’t hard to come by.
It can be easy to get lost in the sea of relationship advice available out there. Let’s simplify! Read on below for 3 sexy (easy) ways to rekindle the flame.
Okay, so you probably have no clue where to begin the journey of discovery with your partner. Fret not! There are so many fun workshops available that you can attend together and be guided through this often tricky landscape. We can’t be expected to be experts in every arena of life, so unless you’re a couple’s therapist, you probably don’t have the arsenal to navigate the many paths to romantic awakening. Let a workshop professional determine the best practices for you and your partner. Maybe together you explore intimate massage, body-painting, or non-verbal communication. Whatever your interest, there’s an in-person or online workshop happening that will cater to both of you!
Travel is an age-old staple for rekindling the flame. There’s nothing quite like the mystery of a new place to ignite the passion in all of us. New foods, new streets, new cultures – it all spells romance. When you and your partner choose a travel destination, it’s important to carefully plan the details. You’ll likely want to be in a picturesque location and stay in quality accommodations. Even the hotel bed linen should be considered, along with ambience and decor – you’ll want something sexy to return to after a long day of exploring. And don’t forget to hang the sign on the door…you won’t want to be disturbed!
For more spirited types, engaging in some sort of role-play can help to breathe new life into your relationship. It doesn’t have to be your typical bedroom role-play, either. Envision all the ways to bring playfulness back into your partnership. Maybe you pretend to be a private chef (dressed accordingly) when your partner arrives home. You can stay in character while you serve dinner and entertain. Or maybe you’re an auditor, looking for a special payment to absolve your partner’s tax debts. Let your imagination run wild, and shake off the initial nervousness – remember that there’s no wrong way to play, it’s all just a game!
With these 3 simple, sexy, suggestions – you’ll be on your way to rekindling the flame in no time. Don’t be afraid to do your own research, find message boards, and reach out to others for help. Growing comfortable with someone is a precious gift, and growing deeper in your intimacy just takes a bit of courage.